Wednesday, January 18, 2017

2017 Phrase Of Encouragement: Finding True Friendships

I am going to share a piece of my heart with you through this post. This is one area that has for many years been a struggle for me. I often find myself trusting people and then being deeply hurt by them within several years of forming the friendship...or what I thought was a friendship.

This past Monday was Martin Luther King Jr. Day. This man knew so much about creating peace in the world. He knew about love and strength, oh, and so much more. This quote gives me a chill every time I read it:

"Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that."
Imagine that. Light and Love can conquer all. Then, why don't we live that way? Why do these so called, "friends" leave us? Aren't friends supposed to be there for us and support us through the difficult times?
I am far from perfect. I make relational mistakes too. But, I can tell you this, if I have an issue with someone I consider a friend, I go to them. We talk about things and move forward. I do not ditch friends when I make new friends. 
I understand that sometimes friendships are for a season, I am not speaking about those. I am referring to those solid friends, who stick with you through some storms of life...then, simply forget you. That. Hurts.
Am I going to hate those people who turned on me when life got tough? No. 
Am I going to speak badly about those who forgot me? No.
Am I going to avoid "organizational" friendships in the future? No.
Am I going to harbor unforgiveness towards those who used me as a friend because it was convenient? No.
I will choose carefully.

Dr. King instructs us to love those who hate. To be the light in a place of darkness. And that is what I choose to do.

My goal is to figure out which friendships are true and nourish and grow them. My goal is to weed out and cut off hurtful, fake friendships. My goal is to continue to trust (although difficult) and make new, lifelong friendships that will stand the test of time in 2017.

Who is with me?


  1. What a great post! All things are important especially with friendships!
    xo, Lee
    Wine and Couture

  2. It's funny but this post is exactly what I needed this morning! Love is really what makes all situations better.

  3. I found that as I got older and wiser..this was an easy thing to do. Good luck!

  4. I know it's tough, but you're right - you just have to eliminate the toxic parts of your life and focus on all the good relationships you have. Good luck!

  5. Such a good post - especially for now! I've been through friendship hurts too, they are no fun and heartbreaking. I am very fortunate to have formed some very good, strong friendships in some unexpected people! I don't have many, but the ones I have are amazing. I love your words about this - love and light all the way!

  6. Great post! It's tough, but so important, to nourish the relationships that bring you joy.

  7. That is a great way to put it! Thank you!

  8. Thanks for sharing this perspective. It is so important to be kind and forgive even when we feel we've been wronged. And so important too to choose our friends wisely - Proverbs 13:20! Praying that you will find and nurture uplifting friendships this year!

    1. Thank you so much!
      It's true about choosing our friends wisely...unfortunately some are wolves in sheeps clothing!

    2. Thank you so much!
      It's true about choosing our friends wisely...unfortunately some are wolves in sheeps clothing!